She was adorable.Įarly in our relationship, one of her female friends gave her a paddle as a gag gift with the suggestion that she should use it should I get out of line. It helped that she enjoyed dressing and leather, which usually consisted of a harness on top, a G string, bare bottom, thigh-high leather boots, and a leather police hat. So we would often go with him to leather bars, and Barbara was accepted and became a de facto mascot of the guys. We had a gay friend who owned a BDSM shop. We partied and socialized in two worlds, straight and gay, specifically the gay leather scene, where most of the provocative and exciting play took place. Barbara's favorite saying was a blowjob is like a handshake, and during our partying, she shook a fair number of hands. She beat Bill Clinton to the punch, declaring that oral sex was not sex. While we did not swing, Barbara was no prude. Most of our married life was ordinary and mundane. It is essential to understand the activities in this account took place over the years. In addition, I was into photography and enjoyed taking photos of her in her provocative outfits in public settings. She enjoyed the attention and shocked looks, and I truly enjoyed it, and I got off on that. Barbara enjoyed dressing provocatively, often wearing sheer outfits with nothing under it or short skirts with no panties when she danced, which was one of her loves. Over the years, we shared some enjoyable and kinky play but always remained true to one another. In addition, she had a warm and playful personality that made men and women fall in love with her. Being of Sicilian descent, she had dark hair, sparkling brown eyes, a gorgeous smile, and for me, a perfect figure, slender 32A- 22-32. She was a 5'1", 102-pound petite package of feminine perfection. I consider myself a lucky man to have Barbara as my wife.